Cleopatra’s Love Column

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Breaking Through The Barriers of Love

By Cleopatra

There really is no one recipe to go by when it comes to being in love and working on building your relationship. Every situation is different and ends up moving forward or being left in the dust.

In order to break through the barriers and challenges you will face in your relationship of love, these are a few recommended rules to follow.

Self-love is the most important ingredient to begin with. Without that there is no way you can love and appreciate anyone else. A lot of us think that devoting ourselves completely to someone else is the best way to receive love.

Honesty and Trust makes this recipe of love much sweeter. It is just the beginning of building a solid foundation in any relationship. If you build your relationship on lies, there is no room for it to blossom into something beautiful. No one likes being deceived so honesty is the best policy to gain trust if you want to succeed in the game of love.

Respect is something that should be given from the very beginning when starting a new relationship. This goes for both men and women. Women complain about men’s behavior habits when it comes to getting to know a women. We as women have to remember that our first impression is what will make us or break us. If we are half dressed on dating sites looking for love, I guarantee you will never find it. You are setting yourself up for a good time or a one night stand. So respecting yourself is the key to getting it in return.

 

Communication being open about your desires, your dreams and aspirations can help make a difference in your love relationship. Being upfront about your future plans and interests lets your partner know and understand how far you are willing to go in the journey of your relationship. Whether you are planning to get married and have a family, or travel the world. It is important to let your partner know the different possibilities you want to explore.

Insecurity this is an ingredient you definitely do not want to have too much of in your relationship. It can kill your relationship before it even launches off the ground. Constantly accusing your lover of being interested in other people can really put a damper on your situation. There has to be some kind of trust and belief to make things work with your lover. Being secure within yourself can make things better for you and your relationship.

 

 

 

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Nancy Meyers, the writer and director of "It's Complicated," can be found on the cover of this past Sunday's New York Times Magazine, confidently standing among a sea of seated women whose laughing eyes and delighted smiles are turned toward an unseen movie screen.

Contrary to the career affirmation suggested by this photo illustration, the article is titled: "Can Anybody Make a Movie for Women?"  Author Daphne Merkin describes Meyers as perhaps "the most powerful female writer-director-producer currently working" -- a filmmaker whose box-office hits "rescue the middle-aged and manless woman from her lonely plight," making "this sorry creature ... not only visible but desirable just the way she is."  Read More

Marrying finances - for the second time

Getting hitched again? These strategies can help ensure that money doesn't come between you and your new spouse.

By Karen Cheney, Money Magazine contributing writerOctober 30, 2009: 4:26 AM ET
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For Tony, 41, this was the second time making such a leap, his previous marriage having ended in divorce. That breakup "put a big dent in my finances," says the software sales executive. "I thought there was no way I was getting into another relationship."

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Women's dating mistakes

14 Relationship Mistakes We Wish We'd Stop Making

Single women, we bet you've been guilty of at least one of these missteps in pursuit of a perfect romance -- or in attempt to sustain a love connection.

It's said that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. So, yes, we know that snooping around our mate's email account is a bad idea and that believing in the fairy-tale love stories we grew up reading is silly, but sometimes we find ourselves giving these relationship moves the ol' college try! The results? Not so successful. Plus, we start to feel unbalanced, and perhaps rightly so.This point is this: there are certain relationship mistakes women make over and over again. Like sleeping in a bad position and waking with a stiff neck, we sometimes don't realize we're blundering and repeating until the ouch factor comes into play. Well, it's time to stop. We're declaring once and for all: let's quit! Quitters sometimes prosper, especially when lousy habits get left behind. Here's the list of relationship blunders we wish we ladies would stop making. 

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"The Plight of The Black Man Just

Houston, TX (BlackNews.com) - While a lot of us are struggling to survive, there is a growing percentage of brothers living in nice homes, driving nice cars and making a good living. Why is it that some of us seem to be living the dream while many are still living the nightmare?

There is no question that a lot of the problems Black men face in America is an outgrowth of slavery, racism and the gross and unjust system designed to keep us down. Yet, how do you explain the fact that some brothers are living the dream?

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